The single 33, 34, 36, and 40 year old girls began telling their tales of rejection that basically rotated on the fact that he, or his mother, thought they were too old to have kids. They talked about the inquisitive eyes, questioning looks, the muttering, the murmuring, the whispering, and the curled lips that stalk them in weddings, parties, gatherings, and outings. Society and family deny them the right to choose and to refuse because they are “too old”. They struggle with their self-esteem and self-fulfillment, and are torn apart between their hormones, nesting phases, and settling down urges - we ladies suffer! I barged in again lending my fellow single females a supporting hand. I played my favorite Libra game; single and happy or married and miserable? Single gal or single mom? No man or wrong man? No kids or wrong kids? I hit a bull’s eye when I mentioned the possibility of adoption; if your maternal instinct is nagging non stop and Mr. Right took a wrong turn on his way to you, nonetheless, you can still be a mother. Options start from nephews and nieces, cats and dogs, to sponsored orphans and live in orphans. Motherhood is not about getting pregnant and giving birth; motherhood is all about nurturing and caring – be it a warm hug, a sound advice, a shoulder to cry on, or a comforting smile.
“Played my favorite Libra game, single and happy or … etc”
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you on this, but that does not mean that the “marriage” concept in wrong, and I can sense you’re defensive towards marriage not because of the notion, but because of how pathetic, lame and shallow our society views any woman over 28 that has not been married yet, it’s a lot of pressure and I won’t even try to understand how it feels.
Marriage does not guarantee happiness but it’s not an equation for disaster either, people who are miserable in their marriage has no clear objective of why they got married in the first place, and if they do have one, both partners have different ones and they discover that after the 1st child .. And the plot thickens.
P.S: love and marriage are highly over-rated in a community so primitive in their instincts that their entire lives revolve around eating, sleeping and having intercourses!
Hello Mo'men:) I am glad you took the time to read my words and I am glad you took the time to post such a well thought comment.
ReplyDelete"Marriage does not guarantee happiness but it’s not an equation for disaster either" - This is the only part I want to reply to; I would say that the kind of marriages that prevail in our society are the equation for disaster - as you put it.