So back to my question: what is wrong with this picture?
If all you could see is a girl who is sinful and ill-mannered – then you need to grow a heart!
This girl has been suffering because of guilt and doubt since she was almost 13 years old! NOT FAIR!
This girl chose to contact me – a writer – to ask me about a medical condition! SO WRONG!
This girl would rather live in misery than go to a doctor for fear of being judged or scandalized! SERIOUS MESS!
Hi Marwa, It is good that this girl was able to ask you these questions as she obviously didn't know who else to turn to.
ReplyDeleteI am a counsellor, specialising in Abuse and Domestic violence and it makes me so angry still to see how women are so afraid of the rules which men have made for them!
On a practical note, virginity is only lost, regardless of damage to the hymen which could happen while riding a bike, through actual sexual intercourse. Foreplay is not intercourse! What angers me is that she is waiting to be judged by a man who most probably is not a virgin!!!! Why is that OK? Why do men get to make the rules for women? It drives me crazy and is something which I try to change every day. So she indulged in foreplay! So what? I'll bet that the bf doesn't have any guilt about his behaviour or worry that he will not be seen to be a virgin!! God love her. If a man dares to judge her then he is the wrong man for her. What would be better is a man who sees her as free and equal, hard to find I know, but worth waiting for! There are some out there. The more women that demand this shift in awareness, from judged to powerful, the more men will have to change their own behaviour. If they don't there will be many powerful women, single and loving it, and a lot of very lonely and bored men! She is a woman with a conscience and that is good, all she needs now is to be proud of herself and strong in the knowledge that she is a woman. Let the man prove to her that he is worth her attention!
My best regards to bth of you.