I clarified in my earlier writings that in the eyes of God males and females are judged on the same criteria and I have always wondered about our society and how it applauds something when it is done by one gender and then condemns that very same thing when it is done by the other gender knowing that all religions forbade that thing. I never understood how a man could choose a lie over the truth and how God's most favored creature could be so ruthless and judgmental when it came to his female counterpart. This dilemma has pushed girls to extremes; those who have complete sexual relations with the exception of intercourse, those who have "backdoor" sex, and those who have hymen reconstruction surgeries.
Here is my reply to the all the girls who lost their virginity and cannot move on:
I want you to understand that you are not alone and I also want you to understand that it is also not the end of the world.
1) Losing your virginity does not mean that you are a slut
2) Having sex with a man you love makes you human - nothing less and nothing more.
3) We live in a society that loves lies and is in love with liars ... you are better than them ... way better.
4) God is not a God of hatred and punishment ... God is loving and forgiving ... God does not look at your outside ... veil or no veil is not the question ... God looks at your inside and at your actions ... do not let anyone tell you otherwise.