"People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. Then, without any wrong-doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done and now it is time to move on. Some people come into your life for a SEASON. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season! LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life."
I read that a long time ago and it had plagued my life ever since; I have been asking myself "why?" with every entrance and every exist, in or out of my life. Why me? Why you? Why now? The little girl within wants it to last ... wants that person to stay ... even if the reason is no longer there. I have a loss-phobia (if such a phobia exists) and I have an inherent fear of abandonment, that's why I just can not wrap my head around a person having to, or needing to, go away. It is just indigestible by my psyche: I still ask why couldn't it last? Ok, let's assume that I accepted the people who have to go when their mission is accomplished and the reason no longer exists. But a season? For me this means time together, sharing, giving, investing, and dreaming. Yes ... I tend to dream when people stay long enough to allow me to dream - This is even more hurtful and so unbelievably unfair. but I guess I will never be able to get the "lifetime deal" before I make my peace with all the reasons and seasons.
6 comments:
This is very true:
""But a season? For me this means time together, sharing, giving, investing, and dreaming.""
i know how it feels it is effort,good time and memories you have spent together and it just can't be turned off or shutdown by a simple click no matter how long was this 'bonding' what matters how intense it was. Yes it is unfair, but come on this is what humans do best to each other to be UNFAIR, if everyone just spent half of the energy or maybe less they spent in being unfair in simply trying to understand how the other part is processing his/her feelings life would have been just amazing!!
Oh Breath ... your words are so true ... power struggles .. what a horrible thing
I read the same season, reason or a life time theory long time ago too. When I first read it, it gave me some condolences, it sounded like the only logic I lacked at that time.
I still use it to advice friends, but I can't open up for more seasons... I am not ready to learn more reasons... It was life time that I wanted... correction, it was the life time that the pure little girl wanted.
There is something in your words that touched my heart ... they just jumped out of the screen and hurt me ... I know exaclty how you feel .. ENOUGH ... stuck in our throats!
Your blog this time "A Reason .. A Season" really touched a vein, and it made my heart sink while reading it.
Ive always used to say that things happen for a reason, but sometimes you just dont want to let go of a person,letting go of someone you want is a horrible thing, and keeping him/her could be even worse, and you ask yourself: why the hell did I meet him/her in the first place ?
I apologize if my comment did not add anyhting new, Im just thinking out loud.
Sometimes i feel from your blogs that you talk what everybody thinks, keep it on, you're my favorite writer.
You are more than welcome to vent any time:) and thank you for being a fan of my writing:)
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