"People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. Then, without any wrong-doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done and now it is time to move on. Some people come into your life for a SEASON. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season! LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life."
I read that a long time ago and it had plagued my life ever since; I have been asking myself "why?" with every entrance and every exist, in or out of my life. Why me? Why you? Why now? The little girl within wants it to last ... wants that person to stay ... even if the reason is no longer there. I have a loss-phobia (if such a phobia exists) and I have an inherent fear of abandonment, that's why I just can not wrap my head around a person having to, or needing to, go away. It is just indigestible by my psyche: I still ask why couldn't it last? Ok, let's assume that I accepted the people who have to go when their mission is accomplished and the reason no longer exists. But a season? For me this means time together, sharing, giving, investing, and dreaming. Yes ... I tend to dream when people stay long enough to allow me to dream - This is even more hurtful and so unbelievably unfair. but I guess I will never be able to get the "lifetime deal" before I make my peace with all the reasons and seasons.