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Saturday, May 26, 2007

The Virgin Prostitute!

“The End justifies the Means” is quoted in our everyday life from Niccolo Machiavelli’s book, “The Prince”. So, if the end is getting a ring on your naked left hand finger, then any lie you throw in the way of prince charming is an acceptable means to a justifiable end. What does he want to hear? That you are a virgin? That you have never been kissed? That you have never been in love? That you have never dated? That he is the first and will certainly be the last? That you are a god-sent angel from heaven? Instead of a happily ever after ending to your story, the truth will just bring it to a sudden humiliating ending; hence, maneuvering is called for to perfect this Machiavellian plan.

So let’s assume that we have a girl who is poor beyond poverty, more ambitious than Lady Macbeth, is paying her tuition fees, and is saving for her dowry. This girl chose the least trodden path as a means to her end; she began selling her body bit by bit for the highest bidders, yet holding on to her virginity; kissing has a price, exploring adds to the bill, and making out is rated differently. Advanced services like hand jobs, fellatio (oral sex), and backdoor sex fall in another category. Those girls and their activities shed a florescent light on the definition of prostitution.

“Where there is a will, there is a way” my mom used to remind me whenever my determination failed me, and those girls were willing to prostitute themselves, they just needed to find a way to do so while preserving their virginity. I was first triggered to write this piece on backdoor sex when I read that some girls went to the attorney general and filed a complaint against Hala Sarhan for paying them off and coaching them into pretending to be prostitutes on her show. They said that she promised that their identities will be hidden but when the show was aired they were scandalized because everyone who knew them could recognize them. The girls were presented to forensics so they could prove that they were not prostitutes, as Hala’s show claimed. The forensic report concluded that they were all virgins with intact hymens, however they showed signs of heavy anal use; the signs included abrasions on the anal opening and a 'funneled' anus.

Later on, I received an email with a scan of an article from Al Fagr Newspaper by Amira Melsh that had a shocking headline “80% of prostitutes are virgins” then another article followed by Wael Abel Fattah, titled “Virgin Prostitution in Egypt.” Both articles researched the entangled webs of vice, pimps, strategies and schemes to lure new girls, rules for dealing with customers, pricing strategies, and guarantees. The girls themselves were discussed revealing their ages and motives; the girls made it very clear to the “customer” that they were to remain virgins. In the investigation, they said that most of their customers were Arabs who paid a lot for backdoor sex, many young Egyptians who only wanted to be touched and relieved, and 50 plus men who wanted to feel young again.

Some of the girls had what sounded like strategic goals for a five year plan before they retired, put it all behind them, and got married to their cuckolded prince charming who would flaunt his manhood along with the virginity of his bride. The plan entailed goals as buying a car, a down payment for a house, and some cash to start their own business. “What is better to fill the gap between aspirations and reality, than a girl’s body?” said 25 year old Nagwan, who is a virgin herself and runs a well structured web; someone is in charge of setting up the house, while another is in charge of bringing in the customers; recruiting new girls is a very segmented process that covers school girls, college girls, married women, and mothers. “Our customers have different needs and tastes and it is our job to please the customer” concluded Nagwan.

“I come from a poor family in Sharkia” said Sara “and I have big dreams of living comfortably and of getting married and having kids of my own. I have an image and a reputation to maintain in this society, this is why most of my business meetings are held in Zamalek and Mohandeseen with Arabs; no one will know me and I will never see them again. They are also more generous and more accepting of my sole condition – I have to remain a virgin” said Sara in her interview.

As usual I ran to my laptop and logged on to an Arabic language dating site where I pretended to be a Kuwaiti guy coming on vacation to Egypt and looking for an escort. I did not approach anyone; I just posted a photo and waited. I did not wait long before my inbox was filled with messages from girls of different ages typing, in Arabic, their needs and requests. I picked one girl who specified backdoor sex as the ultimate form of intercourse and she clearly stated that she was a virgin and that she wanted to stay so.

I tried to bargain for full intercourse but she was adamant; I learnt that she came from a conservative family and that she wanted a better life; “If I get married to someone from that level I will remain poor but if I am rich, I can marry rich” she explained. Her services covered airport pick up, arranging for a rented car, outings, kissing and the like, hand jobs and the like, backdoor sex, and sleeping over. She was very forward about her demands and shrewd in negotiating each item. The deal went sour when I insisted on full intercourse.

In the old days prostitutes had distinctive features; the way they laughed, talked, walked, dressed, wore make-up, and chewed gum. Nowadays, they could be anyone you meet in a shop, supermarket, college, or outing. When our society placed all the emphasis on the presence or absence of a piece of meat, a new breed of Machiavellian call girls was born. They used society’s best argument to their favor; socially speaking honor is linked to the presence of a hymen, and they will have a hymen to show on their wedding night. Innocence, integrity, and the truth sunk deep down in our social gutters and now we have to live in the stink of lies and the stench of corruption. They learned that our laws turn the customer into a witness and that the only proof of their innocence is virginity. They found out that where there is a will, there is a way; and when the front door is locked, open the backdoor!


Rafik Nakhla said...

What an article, what a society, what values.
As I chated with you sometime ago around these articles, Virginity is a state of mind not a piece of meat, it is a whole set of behavior. What happened to the old say the free will starve rather that living on her breasts.
Is it the economic pressure? is it expectations and ambitions beyond actual capability. is it a family that is no longer here? is it values that became so superficia?
I am really sad that the society is rotten inside but keeping the external appearance, what a hypocrisi.

Eyad Harfoush said...

Dear Marwa,
Great subject, yet a painful one, I am looking at the matter from different standpoint. Prostitution has been there throughout mankind history, there is a place in Mokattam where it was practiced to serve the lowest social classes, practiced in rocky notches, and in matriarchal societies it was reversed into male prostitution. Yet, severe competition that traditional whores are facing now mainly from students and young middle-class amateurs is alarming. It is the curse of a society who set materialistic values to be the solely acting values since 1974 till now.

Our problem is not we link chastity to an intact hymen, it is much deeper, it is linking self-actualization to financial achievements. This is why our college girls are turned into whores, our gynecology surgeons became hymenorrhaphy specialists, our pharmacists became drug dealers …etc. even Nicolo Machiavelli had never gone that far on pragmatism as we did.

Dear Rafik,
I see it to be consumption style more than economic pressure, because it moved from lower social class where pressure plays maximal role, to middle class, where consumption lust plays the major role.

Thanks Marwa for opening such rich subjects.

Fantasia said...

Marwa, this is an excellent post. Thanks for "our society placed all the emphasis on the presence or absence of a piece of meat." This is a true crisis. Those girls really believe that they are virgins. Relating virginity to the presence of a piece of meat has reduced morality into a physical thing. That's what you normally end up with when dealing with such a distorted culture. The girl who wants to marry rich has her goal well defined, and she knows that nothing prevents her from attaining it except losing what men look for in a wife: a hymen. Such men deserve to be cockolded. It is only when society redefines morality in a way which puts the humanity of females into consideration that we can start discussing the real meaning of virginity. For now, those girls are virgins.

Mo'men said...

This post reminds me of the current state of the "veil", a piece of cloth rather than an entire behavior and a value.

Prostitutes that want to keep their virginity? wow .. Can people get any sicker? Screw economic/commercialism/lack of values standard issues that seem to be the reason for every god damn shortcoming or rather de-humanization slips. Hypocrisy prevails in this mutated society, oh... and why do they want to keep their intact hymen? Because they have dreams and aspirations of a better life... their distorted definition of a "better life" must include having a: 1-funneled anus 2-fooled future rich husband 3-materialized body/clit with no comfort/joy/ecstasy in intercourses whatsoever 4-broken soul and stripped humanity

Virginity, Honesty, Veils, Religion, Manhood, etc … many concepts and morals needs to be defined and established.

One final notion , Don't blame this on the cock , I cannot imagine marrying a prostitute , with or without an intact hymen because for me prostitution starts from the head rather than the body , and any decent person can sense that a mile away ..

الشيطان يعظ said...

هاي الموضوع جميل
جدا وتعليقك احلي
بس انا نفسي تكتبوا عربي
لان فيه ناس ضعيفه في الانجليزي
و فيه ناس مش بتعرف تقري انجليزي

Breath said...

Hey Marwa

a detailed anatomy for this case Marwa well done, i just wanted to comment this is just one aspect of many ones that shows to which extent our society became a double standards one.

Just couple of days ago i was talking with a friend , i was telling him that our society is going into a serious curve, we are losing our values and and it is rare to find any morals or ethics within anyone and it is becoming really scary as time goes by......

Marwa Rakha said...

Well Dr. Rafik ... it is the story of all times; are they victims or are they criminals ...

Values? What values? It's a mess!

Marwa Rakha said...

I agree with you Eyad ... but again ... it is not just a money issue ... it is a stupid society that would rather bend over than face the change!

Marwa Rakha said...

Hello again Fantasia .... Men deserve what they get .. they want lies ... they get lies!

I love your blog:)

Marwa Rakha said...

Yes Mo'men ... that too .... I was invited to a party a few months ago and I dressed up as a bee2a veiled girl. Red scarf tied a la mode ... full make up and red lipstick ... dangling earrings ... tight top ... low waist jeans ... heals

People were shocked .... I made my statement!

Marwa Rakha said...

Hello Shaytan

I am glad you stopped by and I wish ... i wish I could write in Arabic ... I am so so sorry ... it is my loss anyway

Marwa Rakha said...

Well put Breath ... how are you putting up with the humidity ... I wish you well:)

Nidal Al Okiely said...

Great piece of art Marwa, but I just hope we can all find solutions for such cataclysm , there was a day when white was clear and black was clear, now a days, that game of manipulation is just ruining the society, “ when there is a will, there is a way” yes, they definitely understood the word “will” correct, but they translated “way” in their own way………Still makes me gaze at people and ask where is white and where is black, who is right and who is wrong!